On the episode of Channel A's Oh Eunyoung Golden Counseling Center that aired on the 29th, Tony Ahn says, 'Even when the thoughts of marriage come to me, I worry if I would ever become a good husband or father'. He continues, 'Marriage means spending the rest of your life with that one person. If I can't be a good man or father, wouldn't I harm a lot of people?'.
Oh Eunyoung proceeds to ask about the marriage life of his parents, to which Tony Ahn replies, 'My parents got divorced when I was 6. I have four mothers. 1 biological mother and 3 step mothers'.
He was asked if his father married three times, to which he answers 'It's true (he married 3 times). If I ever get married, would it be a good marriage? I've gone through such childhood, sometimes it makes me think if I would go through the same thing (as my father did)'.
Tony Ahn also reveals that alcohol was the main reason behind the conflict between his father and step mothers. He says, 'I think alcohol has a big influence behind this. He talks in a really harsh way when he drinks, I avoid him too'.
When asked about what kind of person his father is, Tony Ahn replies, 'I think this is a very difficult question. First of all, I see him as someone who did a great job raising me. Even if I couldn't feel it back then. I would think, 'Does my father love me?'. I had a hard time understanding him. I think we started sharing conversations ever since I started drinking with him. He somehow started seeing me as a friend that he feels comfortable being around with. Not too long after that, he passed away'.
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-Seems like he wasn't a good father afterall. He gave such a hard time to both his son and wives.
-I had no idea that he went through this all. I saw my mom crying while watching this episode but I didn't know the context of it.
-I have two moms as well, it's very hard for me...
-I can totally understand why he feels afraid of marriage. It seems like he's afraid he might turn out to be someone like his fatherㅠㅠ
-Hul... What did his son do wrong to deserve this?
-No matter how much you hate that person and swear to yourself that you won't let yourself be that kind of person... In the end, you can't help but be that person...
-Oh Eunyoung said in the show, 'You and your father are two different people. You and your father grew up in a different environment and have different pasts. It's impossible for the two of you to be alike'.
-I hope he gets to meet a good person and wish him all the happiness he deserves
-It hurts me just to read this post. What did he do wrong to deserve all of that?
-This Oppa deserves to be so much happier...
-I went through the same thing and decided to not get married at all. It has a big influence on making who you are right now, it shouldn't be taken easily.
-No wonder why he seems to have a lot of concerns about marriage...
-My heart hurts to know this...
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'I have 4 mothers, I am afraid of marriage' ... Tony Ahn's confession
